It’s My Life (isn’t it?)

“But if I do this, I don’t think my parents will be happy.”

“Wonder what my husband will think about this decision?”

“I would LOVE to…but what are my friends going to think?”

When you’re faced with a decision, can you make your choice confidently without looking back?

Or do you find yourself hesitating, crushed by the weight of others’ expectations or worries about their judgement?

Life is too short to make decisions based on what you think OTHERS want you to do!

Yet, many of us find it difficult to make the choices that will best serve us and make US happy.

How can we tune out all of the noise and start making decisions from the essence of who we are, stemming from and representing our personal values?

Here’s an easy way to start. Read over the following statements and answer true or false. Your answers will help you figure out what, if any, outside influences are holding sway over the way you choose to lead your life!

1. I have done some thorough inner soul-searching, and know what’s important to me. I can express what those things are to others.
2. While I have been influenced by my parents, teachers, society and other outside forces, I don’t just parrot their beliefs and values. Instead, I have made judgments for myself and know my own mind…and make no apologies when I disagree with loved ones.
3. I am not easily swayed by others’ opinions. If I decide something is for me, or not, someone else disagreeing isn’t likely to change my mind.
4. Although I know my own mind, I am willing to undergo self-reflection in order to grow. I am interested in other points of view.
5. My spouse/partner is a good match for me, even when we disagree. We share in a way that pleases me and have an ideal balance of time together and apart.
6. I chose my occupation, or choose to remain in it, because I feel it is a fulfilling outlet for my passion and skill set.
7. I choose my friends. I don’t go along with a friendship that doesn’t feel right just because that person pursues me, or out of a sense of obligation or guilt.
8. Any spirituality I practice feeds my soul.
9. I have dreams and aspirations. I spend time thinking about them and taking regular action toward those that really make my heart sing.
10. I let my values shine through in everything I do. Even new acquaintances can get a snapshot of what I hold dear shortly after meeting me.
11. On the rare occasion when I let someone break a boundary or persuade me to do something I don’t want to do, I take a step back, reassess, and correct the situation as soon as I can.

So how did you do? If you found yourself saying false more often than true, it’s time to clarify what is most important to you, removing the influence of others’ voices! It’s time to find ways to bring your life into greater alignment with your values. I know this can be a daunting process, but it CAN be done. You’re an adult, after all…time to make your own decisions!

I am here for you as you undertake this journey to greater self-awareness and satisfaction. Let me know how I can help you! Click HERE to get in touch!